Yesterday was one of the best days I had for a long time as far as I'm concerned.

The day started off slowly but gained momentum as the minutes go by. My Sis Liana came over to visit right after we finished cleaning the house. It's always guaranteed to be fun even if she's not in top form whenever she's around. She requested nasi lemak after drooling over the pics Sis Lilies put on her blog last week so there we were Lilies and I getting busy in the kitchen again. It was fun.

I made a mess of the sambal. I put a little too much water in the mix and it became orangey instead. Thankfully it still turned out alright in the end. Then I burnt the groundnuts. Dang those things cook so fast they caught me by surprise. We took an hour forty minutes to get everything done before having dinner.

After dinner, the boys (Wang, Dick and I) were inspired by our new-found pack of cards so we immediately laid out the table to play. We played the whole night. Wang had the lion's share of wins - as expected. Never give face one!

After the game at around 11-ish, I had a small chat with Dick when Wang was showering. He has been feeling down for more than a week after breaking up with his girlfriend. I wanted to share with him my business proposal. I want him to be my 1st partner. He was keen on the idea of course. We both agree that it's too soon to work on it now but it offers us something to work towards on the horizon.

The other 2 partners we have in mind are our nephew Zarie who has a very healthy positive outlook on life as well as Daniel, Dick's long time friend who's a very reliable person.

Then Lilies and I had a little chat too. We talked about a lotta things. About my Sister Lilie's life in Perth, my siblings' lives before I was born and before I re-joined the family which was terrible (I almost cried), about me not being ready to start a family, our opinion on our mom, what we intend to do in the future...

Then Wang and Dick came out of their rooms. It was already quite late. I thought they're already asleep. We had a few last laughs together. My stomach nearly burst. It's always nice to have a light time together like this with the people you love. It makes me feel very grateful to still have them around.




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So here are the things I wanna go in and explore further within the next few years.

1. Real Estate
2. Network Marketing
3. Stocks

I've concluded that my finance is in a mess right now and it's time to set the foundation to put things right. To do that, I must systematically remove my present liabilities and refrain from incurring new ones in the future.

I like the mantra of setting up cashflow-generating assets and using the income for big purchases like a house or a car and/or investing in other interests.

So the rule is to not purchase on credit but to buy cash.

If you want something in life that you've never had, you must do something that you've never done before.



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I reached home at about 2300 last night. As I walked past my brother Libis' room to get to my room to put my stuff before heading to the kitchen to have my dinner, I noticed the light was on and felt the cool air from the aircon from the gap at the bottom of the door. I thought my brother was at home.

As I was fixing my dinner, Lilies shouted to tell me that Libis hasn't eaten so I thought he was probably whanking in the room or something. Whatever it was, all the while I thought Libis was in the room until Lilies told me he wasn't. ?!?!?!? 1st thing I checked was whether his room's light was switched on and wonder of wonders...it wasn't.

Strange. Very strange. Maybe I'm going mad like my hamster. I think I should join her in the bucket!

So anyway, I'd like to share a little something Rob Kiyosaki wrote in his book Rich Dad, Poor Dad before I sign off.

"Money is only an idea. If you want more money simply change your way of thinking. Every self-made person started small with an idea, then turned it into something big...It's what in your head that determines what's in your hands...Learn to have money work hard for you and your life will be easier and happier. Today, don't play it safe, play it smart."



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Ok I was rusty. I consider myself a better cook than the average guy in the street. I helped my Sis Lilies cook nasi lemak. It wasn't so bad. She did the most work. I'm just happy I didn't destroy the whole thing.



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Can animals go looney?

I was cleaning Chi Chi and Cha Cha, our hamster's cage so I had to temporarily place them in a bucket so they wouldn't run.

All of a sudden they went completely berserk and had a go at each other like they really meant to kill. Clawing and biting, furs flying.

This has been going on for a while now but I thought they were just playing but I panicked when I saw Cha Cha bleed. She was in a daze. She held her paws up as if to say, "Stop, stop..." and swaying side to side. I bet she didn't know what just happened. She was so pitiful.

I had to rescue her. She has been facing this for months and only now we realized. I left Chi Chi in the "Sin Bin", the bucket. My Sis Lilies left her some bedding and food. I returned Cha Cha back into the cage. When I checked up on her later, she had this really sad look on her face. Apparently she's still lost in a daze.

So can animals go looney? I think they can. Having to live in an enclosed environment, having one mate who's not even of the opposite sex (!!!), eating the same old food and drinking tap water everyday would drive me nuts too.

I think Chi Chi is nuts.



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I've already decided a week ago what I wanted to do in my life but for that to work out, I need to have a small sum of money to start out. The bad news is that I don't have that kinda money. The thing they said about being broke is that it's only temporary. Being poor is for life.

My short term plan for the next 3 months or so is to set aside that sum of money so that I can put into the business as well as to get me by for a while. I've already been to Kelly Services Recruitment Centre yesterday to look for a temp job which my friend recommended.

I give myself a timeline of 6 months from now to build a foundation for my business. I'm working very hard at that direction and I expect any form of positive result as far as my income is concerned by then.

The thing is, 6 months is also the time that Wang has set aside to work on his marriage. Why I keep on raving about Wang is because among all my brothers in law, he's the only one who keeps on moving for something better for his family. If there's one type of people who deserves a hand up, it's the kind of people who doesn't stop moving. It's too early to say if his plans could work right now but at least he's got a plan.

I don't open up a lot but I'd like to think between me and him, it's a 2 way street. My intention is be there for him at the end of that 6 months whether or not his current plans succeed. To do that, I'm gonna need money.

I cannot allow myself to pull him down at the rate I'm going. I can feel his worry. I share his pain. I'm not hoping for success! I'm GOING for it!



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It's been a challenge trying to venture out on my own. I've decided what I wanted to do a while ago and to be practical, I don't have the means to start doing it at this time. I'm thinking of ways to work around this.

Wang has been trying play Ol' Wise One to me for the past week. To be frank, whatever he's tried to teach me, I've already learnt from my past experience in Business School, life experience and the seminars and workshops that I attended.

I think Wang just needs an outlet to redeem some lost esteem or something so I just listened anyway. He said no one in the family is more qualified to share with me those things because he's been through the lowest points in every category of life...and you know what!? He's right!

What he doesn't know though is that the speakers at the seminars and workshops have been through BOTH the lowest AND are currently at the highest points and are definitely more qualified than he is.

I've tried asking Wang along for all those events but he said he doesn't need to. He's learnt enough by listening to post-seminar chatter during the course of his work. To be frank again, I think he hasn't seen anything yet but he's a proud man so I'll let him be.

The thing about people is that they have differing strengths and weaknesses. I bet I could run rings around the smartest guy in the world in soccer. And he'd probably wring my neck in rocket science!

If only humans know how to work with each other instead of against, the world would be a better place. That's what I try to do when I'm dealing with Wang. He's a naturally intelligent person but his ego has taken a battering these past couple of months so I'll just allow him to let it out on me even though he probably thinks he's doing something else like inspiring me to much greater heights.

And for me, he provides food and a roof on top of my head. That itself deserves a big note of appreciation. If I can't repay his kindness, I'll just pay it forward.



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So I got the chance to meet some Hearing Impaired(HI) associates over a few occasions these past couple of weeks and I realized that they're no different than us able bodied people. Those that I've met have shown me how enthusiastic they are in trying to achieve their dreams and goals. Yes, they do have aspirations and they're willing to go for it despite their lacking not like some people I know.

How admirable.

Everybody dreams but the problem is everyone thinks dreams are for others to achieve and not themselves.



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I received an email from someone I truly love and care about who was in a way questioning the step I'm taking now. Below is my response.


Hello how is it going?

I want to make it clear that I do understand where xxx is coming from. Her intention is good or else she wouldn't have been worried for us all.

Perhaps I haven't shared with her enough or perhaps she misunderstands my intentions, both ways no one is guilty of anything. Let's look at my intentions then. I can explain the whole thing or I can put it simply.

I have made mistakes in the past and yet I have not failed. I have not failed because I have not stopped trying. I have not stopped trying because of you - my family.

My plans may have changed all the time but would you rather I stuck to a plan that isn't working? I've done different things in the past and the results I got were all the same. Now is the time to do things differently.

You think this is just wishful thinking. That's where we all go wrong. We think too much. I cannot guarantee a positive result but what the mind can conceive, it can materialize. It can materialize if thoughts are put into action.

Before taking this step, I could choose 2 options. If I continue to sit on my butt, the chances of any success is zero. But if I choose to try, my chances are 50-50. 50% is better than zero anytime.

I'm not an irresponsible person. Keeping to myself does not mean I do not care for anyone's feelings. Au contraire, I do. I do understand that my taking this step could be a burden on everyone that I care about especially Wang and mom. I do not wish to implicate anyone. I'm now living on people's kindness and I'm sure people like Wang knows that I appreciate it. When I do fail, I want that failure to be mine alone but what if I succeed? Why haven't I stopped trying? The answer is you.

If however, people like Wang comes up to me one day and say that he cannot handle having me around the house, I would willingly leave because I know deep down that this is not what he wants to do...just that he has to.

I cannot in my deep soul blame you for pre-judging me even before I got started. You as a xxx and a family member are just naturally concerned as everything that happens within the family would eventually affect you.

There is no reason why I think you should shut up though. Letters like this can either bring a person down or spur him on to a higher level and I choose the latter.

I am still going to do what I set out to do. My goal is still the same. Only that I choose to do it in another manner. My goal is you and my success is ours.

Thank you for reading this letter. The next time you see the word "Bel-Air Paris", please don't waste even a second and give me a call.



Truly yours,

Loobz



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How are you today?

I feel excellent!

I've been attending Bob Proctor's Goal Achievers Program seminar for the last couple of days besides the few I've attended last week.

This one has to be the most powerful of all...and I only paid 90 bucks for it! My friend helped signed me in at a special rate.

What did I learn in there? I'll not do justice to the program if I was to state everything down so I'll just mention a few.

The natural Laws of the Universe... Law of order, gender, etc are the only laws that apply to everyone. They can be realigned or rearranged like jigsaw puzzle pieces but they can never be changed. Never. So instead of working against it, why not make it work for you?

So this is how I think I went wrong. I've been trying my level best for so long and yet I've hit walls at every turn. Why? Coz I had no idea whatsoever that I had jigsaw puzzle pieces to piece together in the 1st place that's why. My pieces have been a hunk of mess for the longest time and I didn't even know!

There's this other law that kinda strike me. It explains that whenever you're seeking something...that something is actually seeking you too. I knew everyone else was wrong when they kept telling me not to keep looking for Miss Right! Just kidding. I didn't know this law was at work but now I know it had when it led me to chance upon a business acquaintance and now my mentor, Wai Mung.

I mean there I was analyzing and tinkering with my overly ambitious business ideas and scouring every line of section 209 of the classified ads for 2 months without any deadway and 2 days before I actually left my job, I saw her ad which caught my eye and gripped my heart. I knew I had to respond to it and I did.

I've known Wai Mung only for less than 2 weeks and she has so far given me the impression to be a good leader. Thank goodness for that. If there's one thing I want all my life, that is to have a good leader to show me the way who also knows how to handle me as my own person. Hmm she's starting to sound like my dream woman all rolled into one. Ha ha I'm just joking. She's married with 2 kids.

Before I buzz off, let me ask you a few questions.

1. What are the results in your life up to now?

2. Are you happy with those results?

3. Do you want to improve those results?

Every result that you see now is the fruit of what you did in the past. So every result that you wanna see tomorrow is the fruit of what you do today. The time is now for a change IF you're willing to make that change.

One law of the universe states that nothing stands still. Everything is either in the state of creation or disintergration. So which one are you...or which one do you choose to be?



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I stayed over at Saiful's place in Yishun last night. Since I'm moving in with him soon I just wanted to see the state of the place and what needs to be done once I move in.

The place has potential to be beautiful for sure but right now a lotta work needs to be done. Of course I wouldn't just start doing up the place without both his mom and his permission though. He lives there alone but his mom owns the place.

My priority is the room where I'm sleeping in and my toilet. Saiful did warn me that there's a bird which made a home outta the toilet with twigs and branches, the works...but he didn't tell me that the bird was dead! Ha ha! I was laughing inside when I saw the dead bird floating in the pail. Apparently it had just died for only a couple of days coz it was still quite intact (yucks! haha!). I removed the carcass with a plastic bag. I'm gonna have to deal with the twigs and branches 1st thing after I move in.

And then there's the room with the old funiture stored inside, not enough power sockets and the non-existent internet connection that I would have to deal with.

The apartment is a lot like me. Messed up but with quick work we could both get on track again. I told Saiful to ask his mom if it's ok to remove some of the stuff and build from scratch. That's also exactly what I'm doing with myself right now. Removing the old and starting anew.



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Nothing much happened today except that I met up with a couple of prospective business acquaintances at 1400. This is just one option out of the 5 or 6 ideas that I have right now. Even if I get involved in this one, it's gonna be more like a sideline or a backup thing for me.

I'm going to meet up with a consultant tomorrow to discuss mainly on startup financing for me as well as for me to understand better on what his company deals in. I was told that they do startups-angels matchmaking and consultancy but I'd rather be there and talk face to face.

I did tell him that I haven't really decided on which of my ideas to go ahead with but he's willing to listen anyway. It's going to be really exciting. Before meeting him, I'd arranged to meet Charles who along with his brother are the only non-Muslim Malays in Singapore that I'm aware of. They both run their own business and I just want some pointers from him before I meet the consultant.

I've sinced returned the PC I got from Wang. Along with the drama that's happening right now, it's really crippling my operations. I'm hoping to get another PC by this weekend and then move in with my friend in Yishun.

I've already told everyone of my intention to move out. They're understandably not too excited about it but it's a win-win scenario. Heidi can now have her own room, Wang and Lilies can focus on their family without having to bother about me in the equation and their living costs would reduce as well.

For me, I can get back my privacy which has been invaded of late, I don't have to have people scrutinizing my every movements and decisions (I don't really like a creativity-stifling environment) and I can really make do without all these distractions coz it's all or nothing, make or break situation for me now. I never wanna work for anyone again.

If you wanna be a part of my future business in any capacity, please let me know how you can contribute. If you have a brilliant business idea that you want me to be a part of, you can share it with me too. Never rule out future synergies.



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Yes it's tough but I'm happy for tha fact that everyone involved stuck together hence we managed to spread the workload around.

News in brief.

Lilies came out of her hole and returned home to pick Heidi up to bring her shopping. Jennifer has since sent Heidi back to us.

I was about to leave the house to get some groceries when Lilies took me aback by appearing at the door. I didn't know what to do for a while.

I decided to go to the store seeing that there were enough people at home to make sure things didn't go outta hand. Moreover my mom was coming later on and she needed the ingredients to whip up some grub.

Dick, my brother decided to go shopping with them to be on the safe side.

Wang, Vena (Dick's girl) and I were left at home. After a while Vena got a little unsettled and left in a huff to meet her friends. I understand her coz she was expecting Dick to ask her along. But I also understand my brother as he had to react fast and had no time to waste. He had to make the right decision at gunpoint.

To cut the story short, all of them came back at night. Dick left to have a little chat with Vena while me and my mom acted as mediators when Wang and Lilies had a showdown in the living room. All this time, Liana and Jelte were connecting us together with details and informations to keep us in the know from wherever they were.

In my opinion, there were some things that I heard for the 1st time that night and I conclude that both of them had a part to play leading to the current situation and I'm just glad that they both have given each other another shot.

It also allows me to focus more on my own plans. I've found another place. I'll be moving out in a couple of weeks. How soon that happens depends on how things develop at home. Home is where I'm currently living in.



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What did I say I was gonna do yesterday? Most of it didn't turn out that way anyway.

Instead I spent the afternoon talking to Wang, Liana and Jelte over pool and some beer at East Coast. We were talking about Wang's marital matters.

A couple of hours later, Lilies and Heidi (their kid) turned up, Wang disappeared and us 3 had to entertain the 2 of them next. We ate at McDonald's before going cycling on our rented bikes at the park.

At 1815, Liana and Jelte had to go off as they had a party to go to at 1900 while I shared a cab with Lilies and Heidi. They dropped me off at Orchard Rd before heading home. I was going to the business preview I was invited to.

Elsewhere at 1830, Wang and Dick my brother met up with Wan to make some things clear between themselves - yet again. It was heated I was told.

At 2220, when my preview ended I received a call from Jelte saying that Lilies had left home...without Heidi thank goodness. I don't know how but it was very lucky that earlier that evening Jennifer, Wang's sister went to pick Heidi up to stay with her for the night. Whew! BIG sigh of relief there.

I knew Lilies would be someplace safe and wouldn't resort to anything more foolish than what she's already done.

I had the inkling feeling that EZ would know where she was coz when she and I were in the cab, she tried to call him to meet up but he said he was going home so I called him.

He told me Lilies did call him about a couple of hours back to talk and his advice was simply to get Wan outta the picture if there was to be any salvation for her family.

Apparently she's taken it a tad too far.

So as everyone else was at the Maxwell Market Food Centre, I arranged for EZ to meet us there as well. I was already in the cab.

In short, the meeting at Maxwell was an extension of our meeting at East Coast in the day and we concluded nothing much could be done so we shall all just wait for the next move whoever or wherever it may come from.

Godspeed to all involved.



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